Monday, January 19, 2015

Getting Healthy Part Two: Exercise

If you missed the last blog, I talked about losing weight in 2014 and how my diet changed and I learned how to eat healthier.  But that’s not all it took to lose 45lbs.  I also found a love of exercise.
Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t a love-at-first-workout kind of love.  No, like many loves, it was slow and awkward and painful along the way.  And even now, I still have bad days.  But I stuck it out long enough to learn to love it.
People always used to tell me that exercise gets easier.  And I believed them, but I myself had never gotten to that place before.  I had issues early on with exercise.  My astigmatism and hand/foot-eye coordination made me bad at sports from the start.  In my hometown, everyone played soccer.  I mean everyone.  There were soccer started programs for preschoolers and on.  And if you didn’t play soccer, you were automatically a weird kid.  I played off and on through elementary school, but I sucked! And everyone knew it.  My best memories relating to soccer were the times the coach brought garlic breadstix for everyone and the time my soccer coach taught me how to make pasta while my dad took piano classes with the coach’s landlady in another room.  Even my early sports memories are about FOOD! As you can see, I was doomed from an early age.
When I got to middle school, I was done with sports.  I had tried basketball and tennis and swimming in the summer, and I had given up hope.  I turned to chorus and theatre and got my minimal exercise from the dance numbers throughout middle and high school.  Of course I had the mandatory P.E courses, but I went to an awesome liberal school where we could choose gym courses like badminton, yoga, and fencing.  And you can bet I chose as many low intensity classes as I could get away with.
It wasn’t until my junior year of college that I realized I needed to start exercising.  A few friends and I decided we might want to take advantage of the free gym before we graduate into the “real world” where you have to pay for everything.  And we were pretty good about it for a while.  We went to classes and swam laps and ran on the elliptical almost every night (but I was still eating like a… college kid).  That summer I dieted like crazy and I was on my parents elliptical all the time.  I lost about 20 lbs.  But it didn’t last long.  By my senior year of college I had gone back to my old habits of eating and exercise (or lack there of).  I tried running with my roommates a couple times but that didn’t work out.
The first thing I did when I decided to really get healthy was to research gyms.  I tried running but it hurt my shins too much and I always turned around after half an hour or so.  If you’re not in love with running right away, it’s really easy to give up or make excuses—the weather doesn’t help.  But with a gym, I knew I would be able to make myself go, even if it was just walking on the treadmill for 15 minutes, it was something.  I found an “Anytime Fitness” right across the street from my new job.  Not only was it the perfect location, the brightly lit sign beckoning me every night after work, but it also had classes—and a coworker who was already a member!  I got my 7-day free trial and started working out right away.  The dance class Mondays and Wednesdays were just my style: indulging my musical side with lighter intensity—and the instructor is a crazy free spirited hippie who reminded me of my mom.  Soon I learned that she taught the yoga classes on Friday nights, a great way to end the week.  For a while I went to just those classes and did the elliptical on the off days.
Of course, there were days that seemed like just too much.  Working at a bank, there were days I was on my feet for a full 7 or 8 hours and all I wanted to do was go home and put my feet up.  Some days, I got off work and sat in my car in the parking lot just trying to convince myself to go.  I would text Jim saying “To gym, or to Jim, that is the question”… because I’m a nerd.  But really that was the question: do I want to go to the gym, or do I want to go home to my Jim.  With this, he was very supportive.  He would always tell me to go to the gym, even though it meant I wouldn’t get to see him at all that night—he worked the graveyard shift back then (11pm to 7am) and most nights he would be asleep when I got home and would go to work when I went to sleep, then got home as I was leaving for work.  Eventually, I started forcing myself to drive from the bank parking lot to the gym parking lot, and then I would sit there for a few minutes convincing myself to go in.
I started talking to people in the dance class, and bonded with the instructor a little.  A few months in, I wrote her a thank you note, telling her I had lost weight and that I owe a lot of that to her and her classes and her positive energy.  To my surprise, she told the whole class that I had lost weight.  And even thought it was embarrassing, it was also encouraging.  The whole class turned around and looked at me, smiling, some clapping and congratulating me.  And as I continued to go, people continued to notice.  One of the best feelings in the world is having someone you barely know say that they’ve noticed you’ve lost weight.  It’s like they’re saying “I don’t know you, and I don’t know your name, but I see you once or twice a week and I have definitely noticed a change.”  It may seem strange, but it’s empowering.  Your friends and family and coworkers know that you’re trying and they see you all the time, so they’re kind of almost expected to say something.  But a total stranger doesn’t owe you anything, so for them to compliment me was an amazing motivation.
Having a friend and coworker at the gym also really helped the process.  I owe a lot to my friend Brenna for not only convincing me to go to the gym, but also getting me to try new things.  On Tuesdays and Thursdays, the manager held a boot-camp style intervals class.  The first time I went, I absolutely despised it.  We did 5-minute sets, 1 minute of cardio, then legs, arms, abs, then cardio again.  After one set it felt like my heart was punching both of my lungs in the face.  And Brenna wanted me to do that for a whole hour!  After the first class, I didn’t go back for more than a month.  Most of the time I wasn’t out of work on time or I had gotten out early and didn’t want to spend another hour there.  But I just really didn’t want to go back.  After a while I felt more physically fit and a little more confident.  I tried the class again and found that I could actually do it—without thinking I was gonna pass out.  Don’t get me wrong, it was—and to this day still is—a challenge, but it’s a challenge I am willing to accept.
I think that was a turning point for me.  I think that’s when I started to think of exercise in a different way.  For me, its not about being skinny—it’s about being healthy, being strong.  It’s about being able to go on a hike and actually enjoy the scenery instead of huffing and puffing.  It’s about realizing that your body can accomplish incredible things if you give it the time and patience that it gives you.
A few days ago, a woman at work asked me “do you have to go to the gym tonight?”  And, although I knew what she meant, her choice of words surprised me.

“I don’t have to,” I replied, chuckling a little.  I wanted to go to gym.  I have finally gotten to the point that exercise is not only easy (some days), but sometimes it’s even enjoyable.  I still go to the dance and yoga classes, and the manager’s class, along with another strength training class.

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